A Biblical Marriage - A Husband's Role
- Raychel Love
- Jul 21
- 5 min read
Updated: Oct 28
My husband and I were experiencing a significant rough patch, for reasons we'll address another time. Motivated by our inherent love for each other, we started trying different strategies to realign ourselves. One of these was conducting our first Bible study together. Tristan took the lead by preparing our discussion topics and Bible verses. We delved deeper into each topic, aiming to align our beliefs and understand our specific roles within the family as guided by the Bible, and what that means for our family structure.
In today's society, it is not always entirely possible or easy to forfill the duties of either end. The scriptures are here to serve as a templete. Of course, with God all things are possible. If it is made a priority, in alignment with the will of God, it'll all work out.
In our case, we were placed into a more biblical/traditional alignment with Christ in our marriage as we begin to build our family and the Lord blessed us with a child with special needs. One of us needed to be more available and present in the household. So, God helped us work it all out.
In hindsight, the Lord continued to bless us doing his work right here on earth. As my husband went to work daily and gave his all in appreciating the position he's been giving. I took pride in caring for our home, my husband, our children, and myself. The increases came steadily. "In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead." James 2:17 Where faith meets action, the Lord will provide as he has done over the years for our family.
So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
Genesis 2:21-22
Simply an excellent starting point for delving deeper into the earliest example we have of a marriage. And lye memorized by the depths of details inserted into God’s beautiful creation of marriage bringing a man and woman together as one.
The rest of our discussion points/topics of discussion, went as follows.
Love and Cherish His Wife
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Ephesians 5:25
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”
Colossians 3:19
Lead and Serve His Family
“For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.”
Ephesians 5:23
"But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3
Provide for His Family
“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Timothy 5:8
Be Faithful to His Wife
“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth… may you ever be intoxicated with her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Hebrews 15:4
Honor and Respect His Wife
“Husbands, in the same way, be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” 1 Peter 3:7
Provide Spiritual Leadership
“To make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” Ephesians 5:26-27
Live With Understanding
“Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life.” 1 Peter 3:7
Be Willing to Sacrifice for His Wife
“In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church.” Ephesians 5:28-29
Avoid Bitterness and Harshness
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” Colossians 3:19
Be a Source of Comfort and Security
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
Live Purely and Maintain Holiness in the Marriage
“The LORD has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union?” Malachi 2:14-15
12. Avoid Divorce and Be Committed
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Matthew 19:4-6
“For I hate divorce, says the Lord, the God of Israel.” Malachi 2:16
Be an Encourager
"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
No different than any other relationship, perception differs from one individual to the next, this still is true in a marriage. Whereas you may think a specific verse reads one way and means one thing, your spouse may see it a different way.
You’ll be surprised of the conversation points that surfaces while reading through these together. If it is your intended purpose for you and your spouse to be one with God, it could be very helpful to discuss these verses listed above in regard to the husband’s role in a marriage and discuss what this looks like in your own marriage structure and family dynamic.
When we have an issue, I consult the Lord and the Bible first. When we decided to marry as one under God, this became a biblical thing. And he is who will get us through, forever TOGETHER.
As we studied these scriptures, they became the foundation that helped us realign and strengthen our marriage through faith. We wanted to share them in a way that could bless other couples walking this same path.
So, we created these printable guides as reminders of God’s design for marriage and the love, respect, and commitment He calls us to.
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Check out Part Two for the roles of his female counterpart.
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