A Biblical Marriage - A Wife’s Role
- Raychel Love
- Jul 30
- 5 min read
Updated: Oct 28
My husband and I were experiencing a significant rough patch, for reasons we'll address another time. Motivated by our inherent love for each other, we started trying different strategies to realign ourselves. One of these was conducting our first Bible study together. Tristan took the lead by preparing our discussion topics and Bible verses. We delved deeper into each topic, aiming to align our beliefs and understand our specific roles within the family as guided by the Bible, and what that means for our family structure.
In today's society, it is not always entirely possible or easy to forfill the duties of either end. The scriptures are here to serve as a templete. Of course, with God all things are possible. If it is made a priority, in alignment with the will of God, it'll all work out.
In our case, we were placed into a more biblical/traditional alignment with Christ in our marriage as we begin to build our family and the Lord blessed us with a child with special needs. One of us needed to be more available and present in the household. So God helped us work it all out.
So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
Genesis 2:21-22
Simply an excellent starting point for delving deeper into the earliest example we have of a marriage. And lye memorized by the depths of details inserted into God’s beautiful creation of marriage bringing a man and woman together as one.
The rest of our discussion points/topics of discussion, went as follows.
Respect and Submit to Her Husband
"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church... Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:22-24:
"Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord." Colossians 3:18
2. Love Her Husband and Children
"Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God." Titus 2:4-5
3. Be a Helper to Her Husband
"The LORD God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'"Genesis 2:18
"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:10-12
4. Exhibit a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
"Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives... Your beauty should not come from outward adornment... Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight." 1 Peter 3:1-4
5. Be Faithful to Her Husband
"Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value." Proverbs 31:11
"The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband." 1 Corinthians 7:3-4
6. Be a Hard Worker and Manage the Household Well
"She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness." Proverbs 31:27
"She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants." Proverbs 31:15
7. Show Kindness and Wisdom
"She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue." Proverbs 31:26
8. Submit Voluntarily Out of Love for Christ
"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." Ephesians 5:21
9. Exemplify Faith and Integrity
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Proverbs 31:30
These scriptures portray the wife as a respectful, loving, and supportive partner who takes on the role of nurturing her family, showing wisdom and care while working diligently to maintain a peaceful and loving home.
10. Be Modest and Pure in Conduct
"I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God." 1 Timothy 2:9-10
"Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight." 1 Peter 3:3-4
11. Be a Woman of Prayer and Faith
This passage recounts the story of Hannah, who prayed earnestly for a child and dedicated her son Samuel to the Lord. It exemplifies a woman’s role as one of faith, trust in God, and dedication to prayer. 1 Samuel 1:26-28
12. Support Her Husband’s Role and Responsibilities
"Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land." Proverbs 31:23
13. Be a Partner in Raising Godly Children
"Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching." Proverbs 1:8
14. Work Diligently to Contribute to the Household
"She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar." Proverbs 31:13-14
"She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes." Proverbs 31:24
15. Be an Encourager and Uplift Her Husband
"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
16. Be Faithful and Trustworthy
"Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:11-12
17. Be Patient and Long-Suffering
"Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires." James 1:19-20
No different then any other relationship, perception differs from one individual to the next, this still is true in a marriage. Where as you may think a specific verse reads one way and means one thing, your spouse may see it a different way.
You’ll be surprised of the conversation points that surfaces while reading through these together. If it is your intended purpose for you and your spouse to be one with God, it could be very helpful to discuss these verses listed above in regards to the husband’s role in a marriage and discuss what this looks like in your own marriage structure and family dynamic.
When we have an issue, I consult the Lord and the Bible first. When we decided to marry as one under God, this became a biblical thing. And he is who will get us through, forever TOGETHER.
As we studied these scriptures, they became the foundation that helped us realign and strengthen our marriage through faith. We wanted to share them in a way that could bless other couples walking this same path.
So, we created these printable guides as reminders of God’s design for marriage and the love, respect, and commitment He calls us to.
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